Availability is next to Godliness

We recently asked our youth group if they wanted more bible studies, more meetings, more speakers. They said they wanted more opportunities for discussion. Their response reminded me of a simple principle I often forget: Kids have a strong need to talk and be heard.

I have a 72-year-old-friend named Marv. He's one of our most loved volunteers because kids know he is available. He listens. He's not as flashy as the other guys, and he isn't much of a challenge in a foot race. But when kids want to get serious and talk, they look for Marv. He has learned that God had a good reason for giving him 2 ears and 1 mouth.

Finding people who are available as good listeners is rare. There's a delicate balance between availability and privacy. Your phone doesn't need to ring all the time, and it is okay to instruct kids to call before they come to your home. Having too many kids wanting to talk to you can be a good problem. It means that you have a gift for listening and you love them enough to be available. Your time is valuable, but when you give your time to someone, you give that person value too.

Leaders,

Our interaction with students is not just something that makes them feel welcomed, but is an opportunity to give them value and make them feel loved. I was reminded when reading this that often times students don't feel listened to by adults. Lets really listen to our kids. Ask them how they are doing so that you can know how they are doing, not just fulfill your, "How's it going quota." Spend time find out about students and finding real interest in them. Remember, our goal is to meet 2-3 new people a week as well as continue to love the students that are here. By really listening to students and letting them know they have your full attention they will feel loved.